Photo by Yogendra Singh on Unsplash Life has a way of knocking us flat at times - but for some, that's not just metaphor. Recently my friend Michele told me a story about just that: being knocked flat in a violent encounter during a broom ball match. As she was scrambling after the ball, a member of the opposing team crashed into her hockey style, tripping her and knocking her flat on the ice. She was left with with painful bruises on her side. She experienced a wave of intense anger flow through her. She "saw red", and noticed an impulse to strike back at her aggressor, whom she was sure made the hit intentionally. Her natural impulse to fight or flee was fully online, "completely out of the ordinary", as she says. But what really made her story memorable was what she did - and didn't do- next. After the hit, she paused and said out loud, "I am experiencing rage right now!" She watched her rage- and thoughts of hitting back,